La Gran Aventura Day 129: Burgos to Hornillos del Camino

Thursday, April 18, 2024

This morning we had kind of a slow morning, but even then it was light years ahead of where we were a couple of weeks ago. The kids are getting better at just getting their stuff and moving things along in the mornings.

At around 7:30 or so, Nidia and Joycelyn showed up. We took some pictures with Francisco, our awesome hospitalero, and we were off.

The walk out of Burgos is much prettier than the walk in. And we made good time. It was just a really pleasant walk -- made all the better because Nidia and Joycelyn have such an easy time connecting with Betty and the kids. It’s a blessing to have them here.

It seems like no matter how far we walk, the first 3/4 are really easy, and the last 1/4 is really tough. Sometimes it’s just a tough 2-3 km.

I’ve mentioned that the kids have been taking turns carrying River’s pack. They mostly do a great job with it, but if it’s got extra water in it, or if it’s extra hot, or if it’s steep uphill, it’s really tough on them. Ian has had some particularly tough stretches.

And speaking of Ian, the other day he talked about how he would like new book to read. We had been having a big Brandon Sanderson talk, so I recommended Mistborn, and he told me he’d like to read it. So I downloaded it for him on Kindle so he can read it on his phone.

He’s been tearing through it, and now when he has to hike with the pack he tells me everything that he’s read in the past day. He remembers every detail from the book, and he loves recounting it all. It’s been such a fun way to connect, and it really helps to pass the kilometers.

This albergue in Hornillos is really nice. It just feels peaceful. Tonight I was sitting in a window seat, and Anahi came and curled up next to me and we just chatted for a bit. She’s so sweet. Probably the biggest benefit of doing the Camino is the time with the kids. We just have a lot of opportunity to walk and chat.

The hospitalera here is named Inma. She’s been really kind to the kids, and tonight, after everyone was asleep, she made an herbal tea for me and Betty, and we just sat and visited. It was kind of a perfect night.

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La Gran Aventura Day 128: Atapuerca to Burgos

Wednesday, April 17, 2024

Today’s hike was ... interesting. After really struggling with her health over the past few weeks, but she’s feeling better now. I could not keep up with her, so I stayed back and walked with the kids, and she got to Burgos about 90 min ahead of us.

For our part, the walk was pretty good. We had breakfast at this little bar with a very grumpy barkeep. But the food was good. We also met some really nice Portuguese guys named Manuel, Jose, and Joao. I’ve loved using my French and Portuguese and even Catalan on the Camino. People always appreciate it when Americans can speak their language. Manuel was super nice and must have taken 20 pictures of us. We get lots of people taking pictures of us. Some stick around to talk, or ask for permission. Others just snap away.  Either way, it’s funny.

The walk through the industrial park into Burgos is really long and boring. I’d been warned to take the river route, but I missed the turn.

Burgos feels like a big deal. It’s the first big-(ish) city we’ve seen since Logroño, and on the Camino cities are few and far between. We’re also well over a third of the way done. It kind of feels like halfway, although we won’t hit that point officially for another week or so.

Burgos is also a city I’ve long wanted to visit. Historically, it’s really important. The Cid is from around here. He is buried with his wife in the Cathedral. I’m just really happy to be here.

I’m also happy to be here because our dear friend Nidia Corzo is here starting the Camino. We met with her and her husband Carlos at Marybeth’s house in February. Nidia and her friend Joycelyn are starting their Camino here. When we spoke in February I thought it would be impossible for us to meet up with them in Burgos, I thought there was no way we would be that far along. But here we are. It truly feels like a miracle. Betty actually ran into them when she was waiting in line at the albergue for us.

So yeah, Burgos feels like a new chapter.

Next up for us is the meseta. It’s the middle third of the Camino -- famous for being flat and a bit boring. Many people just take a bus and skip it. But not us.

This evening we went out with Nidia and Joycelyn, and we visited the Cathedral. It’s pretty amazing, but I was happiest to see the tomb of the Cid. He’s one of the great figures in Iberian history. I’m not sure I would ever have wanted to have dinner with him, but he’s an important part of literary history (and historical history ;) )

After the Cathedral I tried to get to the Museo de Burgos, but I got there too late, and it was closed.

Then we all went out for churros and chocolate. It’s one of the great Spanish treats. The churros are not sweet, and the hot chocolate is dark and thick. The best stuff is like hot pudding. This stuff was a bit thinner, but the kids all still really liked it.

In the later evening I went out with Betty. We got some patatas bravas and had a really nice visit. Betty asked me about what I’ve learned on the Camino so far, and I told her that one thing that pilgrimage has taught me is to value the blessing that I have to be able to fill my life with sacred time and space without having to walk 500 miles to do it. When you pay a high price for something, you value it more. The danger in the convenience of having temples that dot the Earth is that we come to forget what a sacred privilege it is to have them to close. We get some of that living 2 hours from our closest temple, but when you walk 500 miles to get to a sacred place, you really appreciate it when you get there. I hope that I can get the lesson to stick with me. It was a good talk.

After our snack, I took some pictures of the Cathedral in the blue hour. It was a nice night.

We are all really tired. It’s amazing the difference between walking 15 km and 20km. 15 feels like nothing. 20 feels like a lot. Tomorrow we are going to do the same.

Oh, and I have to mention our hospitalero, Francisco. Some hospitaleros are pretty forgettable. Some are memorable for the wrong reasons. Then you meet someone like Francisco who is unforgettable for all the right reasons. This man is 70, but he looks like he’s 50. He’s done the Camino 8 or 9 times, and he does it with the kind of reverence and love and respect that inspires. Tonight we asked him why he keeps going back. He had a hard time answering. Finally, he told us that when we get to Santiago, he thinks we will cry. He says he always does. And then with tears in his own eyes, he told us that even though he doesn’t know why when he starts, he always finds a reason to be there and to ask Santiago for help. He said that his prayers are simple and practical. He just looks up at Santiago and says “Échame una mano.” (Give me a hand).

He’s been so kind to us, and he really seems to love the kids.

Oh, and he put us in a giant room all by ourselves. That’s awesome.

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La Gran Aventura Day 127: Villafranca Montes de Oca to Atapuerca

Tuesday, April 16, 2024

Today we woke up early, and we got the best start we have ever had on the day. Betty is definitely feeling better. The weather has cooled a bit, and the hike over the mountains from Villafranca to Atapuerca was pretty chilly at times. It’s a massive relief after the hot days of hiking we had last week.

Our stage today was about 19 km (almost 12 miles), and it was pretty breezy. Betty really led the way, and I even had a hard time keeping up at times.

Today I’ve been thinking a lot about communication. We’ve spent so much time together as a family over the past few months, and it’s forced us to work on our communication. It’s not perfect, and we still have lots of moments of tension. But I’m grateful for all of the practice we are getting.

Tonight we are sleeping in a town called Atapuerca. I’m so happy to be here. It’s an archeological hotspot. The oldest human remains in Europe are found here. The oldest date to around 1.3 million years ago. I can’t really wrap my brain around that number, but it’s just super old. The mountains form a kind of funnel here that makes it so any game moving from the northeast to the center of the Iberian peninsula have to travel through this valley, so it’s been a place humans have come to hunt for forever. It’s the starting point for my Iberian history and culture class every fall, and now I’ve been here. I’m really happy about that!

We met an Australian guy named Peter at our albergue today. He’s super nice, and he had lots of questions about the church. He’s actually been to two temple open-houses in Australia, and he’s visited the church’s Polynesian Cultural Center at BYU-Hawaii. I love meeting people who know and respect the church.

We initially requested 6 beds in this albergue, and the hospitalero put us in a room with 7 beds. When the lady he was going to put in the room with us saw that there were kids, she refused the bed. So Betty paid the extra $15, and now we’ve got the whole room (and bathroom) to ourselves! It’s such a blessing to have a bit of privacy. Especially after last night, when a Brazilian lady got mad at Betty because she (Betty) was organizing her pack in the room, and the Brazilian lady tripped over it and fell.

We are all going to be so grateful to get home and have our own space again. No more disposable sheets on crummy beds. No more constantly telling everyone to keep their voices down so we don’t bother people. Just a few more weeks (hopefully)!

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La Gran Aventura Day 126: Rest Day in Villafranca Montes de Oca

Monday, April 15, 2024

This morning Betty woke up feeling much, much better. This day of rest is just what we needed. We woke up late (around 7am), and we’ve just spent the day writing and reading and getting updated on Facebook. We also did some laundry (by hand), and washed out our mess kits, and had some lunch (bocadillos), and now we’re ready to rock and roll for tomorrow.

I’m so grateful for priesthood blessings and modern medicine. They are a great combination!

The day has been really chill throughout. I was able to get all the way caught up on my writing in Day One, and I’m also caught up on Facebook. The kids and I also had a chance to watch a bunch of Agents of SHIELD together.

Betty is feeling much better, so we’re going to walk tomorrow. Our goal is to get to Atapuerca. That’s 18k, which will be the most we’ve walked in quite a while.

This afternoon we went to the local market (very, very small) to get some food for dinner, and it quickly devolved into a little firestorm. The next time we buy it needs to NOT be everyone, and we need to have a better plan.

It was contentious for a bit, but it was also a good opportunity to practice our communication skills. And things went really well. Betty took the lead and really did a great job of calming the waters. I’m so grateful for her. She’s the best!

Everyone is really trying to have all their stuff in order tonight so that we can get an early start on the morning. With a fuller day of walking tomorrow we need to get an early start so we don’t feel rushed walking. Betty’s feeling better from her illness and infection, but we’ve still got her feet to take care of.

Just to update the totals, we’ve walked a total of 256 km on the Camino -- that’s over 160 miles! We’ve got 510 km left (about 318 miles).

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La Gran Aventura Day 125: Belorado to Villafranca Montes de Oca

Sunday, April 14, 2024

This morning we woke up and would have been ready in record time, but Betty had a really tough night and was feeling pretty terrible. Even still, she got up, and we hiked the 12k to Villafranca. During the walk she didn’t talk much. She’s got a sore throat and body aches. She is really sick. I’m not sure how she made it. She was really dragging by the time we got in, and as soon as we got in the albergue, she crawled into bed.

I went to see if the store had anything we could use to make a tea for her. On the way to the store, I saw a medical clinic. When I got back to the albergue, we called the number, and they said they could see her at the clinic in Belorado. So she and River and I hopped in a taxi and headed to the clinic. It turns out she has not recovered from the bladder infection, and now with this cold she’s developed an ear infection as well. They got us on a new regimen of antibiotics, and they told us we needed to rest at least a day.

I’m honestly amazed she made it this far. She’s been battling infection since at least Roncesvalles. That’s  250+k (over 160 miles) hiked with infection in her system. No wonder she’s not been feeling well.

The Camino is such a personal thing. All pilgrimage is. I’ve had so many people tell me over the past couple of weeks that it’s totally OK for her to take a taxi or a bus for a day or two or more. We know that. She knows that. That was our agreement from the outset. We knew that doing this with the kids would be difficult, and we were both fully prepared to use those means of transport as an option. As recently as a few days before we started hiking -- when we were in Barcelona -- Betty’s main goal had been to finish as quickly as possible, and she was looking forward to maybe skipping out on a couple of days so that the older kids and I could move more quickly. But the Camino has a way of working on your mind and soul, and somewhere around Pamplona Betty made the decision that she wanted to walk the entire way to Santiago. I respect that, and I support her in it. The kids respect it as well. Except for a difficult moment a few days ago, they have been on board with taking things at the pace she needs to follow.

In our church’s general conference last fall Sister Tamara Runia gave a talk called Seeing God’s Family through the Overview Lens in which she said the following:

Before we interact with a loved one, can we ask ourselves the question “Is what I’m about to do or say helpful or hurtful?” Our words are one of our superpowers, and family members are like human blackboards, standing in front of us saying, “Write what you think of me!” These messages, whether intentional or unintentional, should be hopeful and encouraging.

Our job is not to teach someone who’s going through a rough patch that they are bad or disappointing. On rare occasions we may feel prompted to correct, but most often let’s tell our loved ones in spoken and unspoken ways the messages they long to hear: “Our family feels whole and complete because you are in it.” “You will be loved for the rest of your life—no matter what.”

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Remember, families are a God-given laboratory where we’re figuring things out, so missteps and miscalculations are not just possible but probable. And wouldn’t it be interesting if, at the end of our lives, we could see that those relationships, even those challenging moments, were the very things that helped us to become more like our Savior? Each difficult interaction is an opportunity to learn how to love at a deeper level—a godlike level.

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[T]he adversary does not want us or our loved ones to return home together. And because we live on a planet that is bound by time and a finite number of years, he tries to perpetuate a very real sense of panic in us. It’s hard to see, when we’re zoomed in, that our direction matters more than our speed.

Remember, “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” Thankfully, the God we worship is not bound by time. He sees who our loved ones really are and who we really are. So He’s patient with us, hoping we’ll be patient with each other.

So we are going to be patient and we are going to go together. We will stay in Villafranca one more full day tomorrow. It’s a sleepy town with very little to do, so I think it will be a good rest.

Betty has taken the medicine that they gave her, and she took some tea River and I made for her (cinnamon, onion, garlic, and cayenne pepper), and she’s telling me that she’s feeling better.

Because today was Sunday we had a little testimony meeting about what the Lord is teaching us so far on this journey. I was so impressed with the kids. They are paying attention and learning so much.

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La Gran Aventura Day 124: Redecilla del Camino to Belorado

Saturday, April 13, 2024

I think Betty’s got a cold. She’s feeling pretty terrible. She didn’t do well last night, and today’s walk was not long, but it was slow. Her feet are a bit better, but this cold does not look good. She just can’t catch a break.

On the hike to Belorado it got very hot, and Ian started having really bad stomach- and headache. He thinks it was an adverse reaction to some cow’s milk we had for breakfast. We took a break and hosed him down with water from our bottles and covered him in a wet towel. Eventually, he got feeling well enough to make it into town.

Belorado is just another of many super tiny towns on the Camino. There isn’t much to it. The albergue here is OK, though, and Marta, the hospitalera is really nice. She put us in a room away from the men (we’ve got a few women with us), and she even cooked up some pasta for us when she saw the kitchen was occupied by some other pilgrims.

I think Betty night need a doctor for this cough, but the clinic and pharmacy here in town are closed because it’s Saturday.

In the afternoon the kids and I learned how to play the card game Euchre. It’s very popular in Michigan, so now we feel like true Michiganders.

We also took River to the park, and that was good. Also, Alicia put a bunch of braids into Ian’s hair :)

Oh, and we had hamburgers for dinner. That was great!

I’m not sure how tomorrow is going to go. We may have a forced stop here.

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La Gran Aventura Day 123: Santo Domingo de la Calzada to Redecilla del Camino

Friday, April 12, 2024

Well, our weird night last night turned into a weird day today. We decided to do a half stage today, so nobody was really in a hurry to get out of the albergue. Energy and motivation are really low this morning.

Before we left town, I wanted to see the cathedral of Santo Domingo de la Calzada. It’s such a small town to have a cathedral, but it’s basically here because of the work of one man, Santo Domingo, who dedicated his life to helping pilgrims. The cathedral is also famous because there are live chickens inside it. They are the descendants of some chickens that are tied to a miracle that is tied to Santo Domingo. We waited an extra 30-45 minutes for the cathedral to open so we could see the chickens, and I’m glad we did, but the none of us were really impressed. They are in a cage and up high where it’s difficult to see them.

After the Cathedral, we were all in a bad mood. I walked a lot of the day by myself (I mean, I never really walk by myself, I’ve always got River talking in my ear). The weather has really gotten hot, and the last part of the day today was really hot. We started in April so we could avoid the hottest months of the year, but today it was close to 80 degrees. If the heat continues, it’s going to be a challenge.

We arrived at our Albergue in Redecilla del Camino a bit like what Betty would call “cucarachas fumigadas” (fumigated cockroaches). José the hospitalero was out waiting for us, and he was super nice. Up to now we’ve stayed only in big municipal or parrochial albergues. Tonight we stayed in a private one. They tend to be a little more expensive, and the host prepares dinner and breakfast for you. When we got to the albergue, José wouldn’t let me pay for the food -- only the beds. I was so grateful I almost started crying. After the past couple of days it was such a tender mercy. He told me that years ago he did the camino with his daughter, and he knows how expensive it can be.

The afternoon was really lazy. We did have a good seminary lesson memorizing doctrinal mastery scriptures with the kids.

Betty’s feet are really sore again. She feels terrible about it. We just don’t know what to do. She needs rest -- quite a bit of it, but generally you can’t spend more than one night in an albergue without a note from a doctor. We’ve got to figure something out because I don’t want her to get really injured, and I’d love for her to be able to walk the last part.

I helped José with dinner (it was the least I could do). He is quite a character. He’s into studying personalities and energy from the earth, and he’s been a fireman, and he was involved in organizing protests against municipal governments in the Basque Country, and now he’s a hospitalero. My favorite moment of the evening was when he did a personality analysis of Alicia. He couldn’t have been more wrong. He told her she was the quiet type, and that she is the kind of person who won’t speak up for herself. He warned her that in the future she is going to have a manipulative boyfriend, but she’s not going to want to break up with him because she doesn’t speak up for herself. Alicia and I just smiled and nodded at him and that winked and laughed at each other.

But he’s kind, and he’s an amazing chef, we’ll give him a pass.

Dinner was amazing. We ate with a few other pilgrims, and it was just great. José made a delicious creamy soup made with leeks and mushrooms and cream and cheese. And he made a simple but delicious cheesy pasta. We had homemade apple cake for dessert. One of the pilgrims was an older gentleman from Canada, and at some point during the meal he just broke out in mouth trumpet song. Yes, you read that right. Mouth trumpet. He was actually really good, and he told us he’s recorded albums and “played” at funerals and on the radio. It was another unique Camino experience.

Oh, and Alicia realized that your reflection in a spoon is actually upside-down.

Tomorrow we go another 12k to Belorado.

I feel like if we can get through this weekend we’ll be OK.

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La Gran Aventura Day 122: Nájera to Santo Domingo de la Calzada

Thursday, April 11, 2024

This was our best morning yet. I had my doubts about this albergue yesterday, but I love it this morning. They started playing music to help people wake up, and by the time we were about out the door it was a full-on party. I need a copy of that playlist!

Betty is definitely feeling better. It was tough, but her foot was doing much better. Today we have planned a full stage.

On our way out of Nájera we met a really nice Dutchman named Stewart. To say Dutchman is to say nice. They are the warmest, nicest people I’ve met on the Camino. There isn’t one of them that isn’t kind. Stewart is blogging about his journey and wanted to write about our story, so we talked for a while, and then we stopped at a bar and he bought orange juices for everyone. I’ll post his story if I can find it :) (See below)

There was one steep climb today up to the town of Cirueña. At the top of that hill there is a shady spot where you can rest and sit on a bench. When we got up there we met Frank and Jane Steck from Minneapolis. They said they had heard about us and were happy to meet us. She took a picture with us to show her school kids back home, and he was visibly moved when he thanked me for bringing my family on the Camino. It’s cool to see how our family is inspiring people back home and on the Camino.

We got to Santo Domingo at a really great time, and we got a private room in the best albergue we’ve seen up to now. This place is huge and really nice. We soaked our feet in cold foot baths, and had a nice dinner of Cesar salads -- thanks to Alicia and Anahi.

After that, unfortunately, things went downhill. The boys were not very grateful to eat healthy salad for dinner, and that was dumb. Then Alicia started feeling homesick and frustrated. We ended up having a long talk. I think with her things boil down to the fact that we have been gone for a really long time. We left on our grand adventure on December 11th. She misses her friends. She misses school. We have had to slow our pace quite a bit because of Betty’s foot, and we aren’t really sure when we will be done with this. We haven’t even bought return tickets yet because we don’t know if it will be early May or late May or even early June before we are done.

As she talked about the challenges of the Camino, I couldn’t help thinking about what awesome preparation this journey is for her future mission. So many of the challenges she describes are the things missionaries (and parents) face every day. We wake up. We get ready for the day. We leave the apartment early. We spend the day walking around. On same days we meet a bunch of different people. Some of them are weird. On other days we hardly talk to anyone. We get to our home in the afternoon or evening and then we have to take care of dinner and get ready for the next day. And we do it over and over and over. And we just have to keep going until the end. The big difference, and the one that weighs on the kids sometimes is that if we walk faster and cover more distance each day, we get to go home sooner. For missionaries (and parents) it doesn’t matter what you do. The end will come when it comes. You just have to keep going day after day.

The conversation with Alicia and Betty was really draining, and tonight I just feel a bit off. I know we are doing amazing, but I just can’t seem to get out of this funk. Maybe I’ll feel better in the morning. I’m so grateful for the prayers and well-wishes of family and friends. They really help me to keep going on days like today.


Todd walks in the distance. But I didn't know that at the time. Todd is carrying a child. This child's name is River. I didn't know either. That came later and it went like this. There are children walking on the path. With backpacks and that is quite special. So I catch up. Todd introduces himself as Todd. Todd here and no further I think but I swallow the joke. Todd is from Utah and is a Mormon. There are five children and a Mexican woman. River is sitting on Todd. I think River is a beautiful name. It flows. Pantha Rhei. Some names flow like Eve. Others flow less, like Whitney. The Maharishi Yogi is located in Vlodrop. Because Vlodrop flows. Hence. Todd takes his children around the world. They visit Mormon churches everywhere. They call those temples, which sounds more exciting but is the same. Todd walks and River sleeps. On Todd's head. And I think of my own River, her name is Nynke, and that her head once slept on mine. Todd does it, he walks to Santiago with River. The teacher at school also allowed it. A little later they are standing next to the terrace. I buy seven orange juices and now River can go on the terrace. That's nice. And now I also have to take a picture with Todd and River. The little Mexican mother hugs me and I hug her. Friesland embraces Mexico. So that's how it should be. And all I want is a river on my head and walking on and on. And then she sleeps. With her head on mine. I'll walk. Together.

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